It’s equanimity - the fourth
of the brahma-viharas as I teach them - which helps
compassion not fall into
its near enemies such as pity or grief. Equanimity
provides some balance.
It’s said that equanimity endows
compassion with courage because we can come close,
we can open,
and we can look, without feeling that we’ve failed
and it’s our fault if we can’t make all the pain
go away. It’s just in the nature of things. Equanimity
isn’t resignation or apathy. It’s wisdom.
It’s saying, “yes, this is how things are”.
Does this potential for
harming ourselves mean that it
is wrong to feel them?
Reflect on the need
to look at our experience truthfully
and see the consequences
of one set of responses as opposed
Equanimity in the face of someone’s pain
doesn’t mean that we don’t care,
by any means, but it gives us the strength of
wisdom, the clarity of wisdom, and the balance
of wisdom, to recognize what we can do and what
we can’t do. Where we need to let go. We
need to trust in the purity of our intention,
in terms of our action. We need to trust in the
unfolding of events. We need to see that, no
matter what, there’s going to be some pain