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We often limit ourselves by sticking to out preconceptions. Non-attachment means caring without grasping. With non-attachment we can flow through life, experiencing each moment fully without trying t hold onto it.

Stephen Batchelor

reflectDo you associate "non-attachment" with "detachment"? Do you think non-attachment means that you do not care?

Non-attachment means that you do not grasp. We have a tendency to grasp at and then stick to everything we come in contact with, through hearing, tasting, seeing, touching, smelling and thinking This grasping is at the root of much suffering.

 

reflectImagine that you are holding an object made of gold. It is so precious and it is yours — you feel you must hold onto it.

You grasp it, curling your fingers so as not to drop it, so that nobody can take it away from you. What happens after a while? Not only does your hand and arm start cramp but you cannot use your hand for anything else. When you grip something, you create tension and you limit yourself.

So is dropping the golden object the solution?

 

Non-attachment means learning to relax, to uncurl the fingers and gently open the hand. When my hand is wide open and there is no tension, the precious object can rest lightly on my palm. I can still value the object and take care of it; I can put it down and pick it up; I can use my hand for doing something else.

 

reflectReflect on what happens when you do not uncurl your fingers. Does your holding become one with what is being grasped? Are taken over by it. Do you see the precious object outside its context? Are you blinded to other possibilities and reduced to what you are holding ?